A little background on me....I started dating my boyfriend in 2012. We went to uni together since 2008 and were friends from the beginning but nothing sparked between us and I was dating someone else at the time.
It's funny how your potential life partner can just be around you the whole time and you're so oblivious to this and instead end up dating douchebags - just as I did.
So let me tell you a little about T - 5 months into our relationship he got into investment banking at a boutique firm. I honestly didn't know much or anything about investment banking and M&A at the time....everything I learnt, I learnt from T. He told me it's his ambition and it's where he wants to be....where he wants to make it big....
I guess I didn't know what to expect....T told me that taking this job would mean I wouldn't be seeing him after 5pm on a weekday anymore...and it's likely that weekends will be a gamble too..... he asked me if I felt okay about that - did I?
I guess I did...it was only 5 months into the relationship and there's no way I was going to stop him achieve his dreams.
So there I was....a banker's girlfriend and little did I know what life and the next 3 years had in store for me.
On day 1 of his job... T finished at 10pm and I thought to myself - here it goes....boy was I in for a big surprise....10pm was early! T and I spent hours on the phone chatting about us....chatting about how we would make this work...how we would avoid drifting apart....how we would rise about the myths of these types of relationships never working out....and we decided we had to give it our best shot.....
On his first week T told me that they would get to leave early on Fridays and would get some time off on the weekend too....and so he did. It felt like I hadn't seen T in ages and it was so good to hear from him.....hug him and see him.... he told me about his colleagues and how they were all jocky guys....douchebags....so different from anyone else he'd ever worked with.... T was already missing me and I was already missing T
T & I grew much closer as months went by....and it was apparent we didn't like being away from each other...but we kept going and I kept being supportive.....I would get calls at anytime after 11pm when T got home and wanted to chat....some days I waited by the phone and would chat to him and some days I just couldn't get myself to stay awake....
I had to quit my job for some really personal reasons, I wasn't getting along with the manager and I felt really out of place and unhappy....so I decided to focus my efforts on uni ....this was where everything went to bits....anxiety, loneliness, uncertainty and insecurities all started taking over me
Being unemployed and having a boyfriend who is constantly busy, not able to keep in touch often and not knowing what times he gets home was really nerve wrecking.....I developed a really bad anxiety about T.....it started from never knowing when he was going to call, when I would be able to see him....to not getting replies for hours....or the rest of the day.....T was busy....busy.....endlessly busy with not a second to breathe.....
I would text once and get no reply...text again no reply....."T are you okay?"...."T talk to me".....and still no reply..... hours would have passed without a single reply from T....
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